Longevity of a relationship is not an assurance that it is going to last. I had an occasion to talk with a friend who has been in a four-year relationship. Having been on much a relationship, he shared the joy of the moments when the relationship was blossoming, the pain when the feelings started to fizzle out, and the emptiness when he finally realized that he no longer felt anything for his 24-year old girlfriend.
He said that in the beginning, he thought he found her, the right one for him. But “fast forward” to today, he is wondering if he really knew her at all. He said, she was not the kind of woman he expected. The relationship died because the girl constantly cheated on him.
My friend said the he persistently tried to keep the relationship alive. He said he worked hard to make it work, but the girl continued to disappoint him–pushing him to his limits until he reached that point where all he wanted to do is raise his arms and quit. He strives so hard but his girlfriend`s actions, the things she has been doing, had already emptied out his patience and understanding–leading him to believe that there`s no more possibility for their relationship to survive.
He predicament now, however, is that he cannot tell directly that his feelings have already taken an exit and what is left is a stanching decay of what was then called “love”. He wanted to end the relationship as soon as possible but he does not have enough courage to tell her face to face. He always turn against when he begins to open the topic to her.
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